Time Heals All Wounds…and Other Sucky Sayings

“They” always tell you it will get better. At this point, “they” are wrong. The second Thanksgiving without my mom was just as sad as the first. “They” also say that it takes 6 weeks to develop a new habit. …

‘Tis the Season

The Hallmark Channel has been showing Christmas movies since late October. These shows have always reminded me of my Mom, her kitchen, and the holidays. We have shared a lot of laughter over these silly (and oftentimes far fetched) movies! I remember making fun of her obsession…

All Saints

On this Day of the Dead, we welcome the spirits of our loved ones, tell their stories and remember their love.

I don’t know much about El Dia de Los Muertos, but I’m learning. It’s hard to miss this annual celebration given its trending pop culture status. What…

Halloween Chili

It’s important to make space and time for grieving. I find that I feel closest to my mom when I’m doing things we used to do together. Holidays are a good time to revisit these types of memories. While Mom wasn’t a big fan of Halloween, she made…

One Less Flower Child

You never know when grief will strike. One minute you’re mindlessly scrolling through Facebook and the next minute you’re wiping tears off your phone. …

Mothers & Daughters

I am blessed. My mother and I had an easy relationship. We not only loved each other, but we liked and respected each other, too. This is something that I don’t take for granted. I pray that my daughter and I have that same kind of relationship…

Welcome Wreath

My childhood memories don’t include door wreaths. I remember lots of other decorations, but not wreaths. The first wreath I can actually recall made its appearance on our front door while I was in college. DIY crafts were becoming really popular at the time and my Mom made…

Breakfast is Love

It’s always surprising to me how many people don’t eat breakfast. As a kid, my Mom always made sure we never walked out the door without breakfast. Sometimes it was cereal, but mostly it was a hot breakfast. If we were really lucky, it was breakfast for…

Thinking of You

It’s funny the things that get passed down from generation to generation. Every time someone in my presence starts rubbing their nose or comments that their nose is “itchy,” I always tease, “Someone must be thinking about you…” I know it’s a silly superstition, but it’s something…

Buying a Watermelon

I thought I saw you at Walmart the other day. I was walking out of the frozen food aisle when I saw a woman who looked just like you. She had short dark hair, perfectly styled. She wore glasses, the type that show off friendly eyes. I might not have noticed this woman if it hadn’t been for one detail — her shirt. She was wearing a red Kansas Jayhawk t-shirt. My favorite. The whole scene caused me to stop in my tracks. It took my breath away and I saw her smile at me just before my eyes started to mist over. I had to turn away. When I finally looked up, she was walking away…a watermelon in her arms.

You always liked watermelon.

Empty Chairs, Everywhere is a personal grief diary as I process the loss of my Mother to COVID-19.

Anna Ortiz Spencer

Freelance Reporter. Web designer. Social media consultant. Writer at hymningandhaing.com

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